It can often be difficult to believe in yourself, especially if you feel that you have nothing to offer or that you do not deserve certain things. You deserve them and you have a lot to offer.
If you have trouble seeing incredible things about yourself, you can do simple things to start believing in yourself. You can take stock of what you have accomplished to set goals, you can make new friends and look for opportunities to use your skills and you can take care of yourself to increase your insurance.
Make a list of your past successes
Make a list of all your successes to help you start to believe in yourself. Sit down and make a list of all the things for which you think you have been the best at some point in your life.
Also note the most insignificant activities, for example when you were able to assemble a piece of furniture from Ikea or when you organized a party for a friend or a member of your family.
- Once you have made your list, try to find common links to these activities. Identify what you did well on a recurring basis to understand what your skills are.
- As you identify the skills that helped you accomplish these activities, start making a list of these skills in a separate column. You can also make a list of things you admire about yourself in a third column.
- For example, if you notice that you have repeatedly taken good care of dogs and cats, this may indicate that you are a naturally compassionate person. In this case, try to find more activities that will help you use this skill, for example by volunteering at an animal shelter.
Talk to people who love you
If you really have trouble identifying the exceptional things of your personality, you can always chat with people who love you.
Sometimes you may have a hard time seeing what is good about you, but people who really love you will never have a hard time seeing these things.
Find a cause you believe in
It may be hard to believe in yourself if you are constantly trying to please others. Make sure you take care of causes and projects that matter to you and in which you really believe.
The passion you feel for these causes and projects will help you work harder and see what you can achieve.
Set realistic goals
By setting realistic goals, you will believe in yourself and in your abilities to accomplish certain things. Make sure to develop goals in the same area as your skills to be able to accomplish them.
For example, if you have decided to work to become a veterinarian because of your skills with animals, start by setting up a small goal within your reach that will help you reach your goal more easily in the long run.
- Get ready to get out of your comfort zone from time to time. Even if you set achievable goals, you may need to do things you are not used to doing.
- Once you have set your goal, work hard until you get there. Do not give up a goal because it has become too difficult. If a goal looks difficult, try to divide it into smaller goals and focus on one of those goals at once.
Think about the end of the day
Reflecting on yourself is an important component of your own improvement. It helps you take stock of what you did well and what you still need to work on.
Take a moment at the end of each day to reflect on your experiences. If there is a day when you have not done as much as you expected, try to learn what you can from this situation to avoid repeating the mistakes you have made.
- For example, if you can not get up in the morning to go on a planned hike, you might learn that you have trouble motivating yourself in the morning. Try to set up several different alarms, even place one to several meters from you. You can also try to find another time of the day for your hike instead of forcing yourself to do it in the morning.
Sometimes you might want to give up because it’s possible to fail and it’s perfectly natural to struggle with that feeling at first. Instead of accusing you of doing something wrong, give yourself permission to experiment without worrying about the consequences.
Connect with people
New perspectives in neuroscience are beginning to show the importance of building new relationships and strengthening existing relationships to support brain function.
This is why you will be less likely to change your own habits if you do not realize first the degree to which your behavior is conditioned by your surroundings and in some ways dependent on it.
- If you realize that others are always coming to you for advice, but you feel that you have no one to talk to when you’re not feeling well, it’s likely that you’ve come to comfort members of your group of friends. There is nothing wrong with helping others, but it is also necessary to take care of yourself. In fact, sometimes we help others more than ourselves because we are used to it. Think about why you help so much and think about how it affects you.
Work to think positive things about yourself and your behavior. Fight the strong urge to be negative by identifying two of your forces every day.
- Be sure to think about any unproductive thoughts that go through your head. If you find yourself thinking that you are a loser, that no one likes you, and that you never get anywhere, stop and think about it. Confront her with positive thoughts by identifying two positive things at home. The more you practice positive thinking, the easier it becomes.
- For example, if you think that you are a zero in mathematics, reframe this thinking in a more productive way by telling yourself that mathematics is a challenge for you, but that you work hard to improve.
Find ways to keep moving forward
Sometimes you may feel stuck in your routine without knowing how to move forward. In this case, take a deep breath and try to put the present moment into perspective. People are too often concentrating on negative things, which leads them to ignore positive things. Sometimes just change the landscape or break the daily routine.
- Find a way to break your usual routine or your behavior. For example, if you feel surrounded only by negative people, you could join a sports club or group near you to meet other people.
Focus on the positive things
Psychologists have discovered that we focus more often on negative comments about ourselves instead of seeing things positive. We also tend to assume that people are more focused on us than they really are.
Try to remember to focus on positive things, not negative things. If you realize that you or those around you are very critical of you, consider making a change.
Do complicated things
If you only do simple things, it can be easy to think that you are not able to do difficult things. Prove to yourself that you can take on challenges by doing just that.
Do things that can be rewarded even if you have to work hard. You can do it! Remember, you can always break down a difficult task into several smaller, simpler tasks.
Learn to impose yourself
When things happen around you and when you have an opinion or when you know a better way, express yourself! Do not accept things as they are. Take an active part in the situation.
It shows others that you are able to take control and express your needs and desires.
By imposing yourself, you will also come to surround yourself with people whose aspirations and worries are similar to yours.
These are essential things to become more comfortable with your environment, research showing that these are necessary steps to develop the certainty that you can act on your needs and desires.
By helping others, you can often have a better understanding of what you can do while feeling better about yourself. By helping others by volunteering and through everyday acts of generosity, you will have an extraordinary sense of satisfaction. It also gives you additional opportunities to use and develop your skills. By helping others, you will feel safer than ever before.
Pay attention to your appearance and your hygiene
It may be easier to believe in yourself if you feel confident about your appearance. You can make sure you’re doing the right thing by following daily hygiene rules and taking care of yourself. Make sure to:
- take a shower or a bath
- to style your hair
- trim or file your nails
- shave and maintain your beard (for men)
- brush your teeth (twice a day)
- keep a pleasant body odor by using deodorant, scented lotions, and perfume
- wear clothes that fit you well and that you feel comfortable with
Nourish your body with healthy foods
The food you eat every day will affect how you feel physically and emotionally. If you take the time to prepare a good meal, you will feel better than if you had a packet of chips and a bottle of soda at dinner. Make sure you contribute to your overall well-being by eating only healthy foods.
Exercise every day
Exercises have long been known to help reduce stress and make you feel happier, but studies have also shown that they can help you improve your self-confidence. Be sure to include at least 30 minutes of physical exercise a day to reap the physical and psychological benefits.
Sleep a lot
Lack of sleep can aggravate self-consciousness and other negative emotional tendencies, which is why you need to get enough sleep every night. You will be more difficult to believe in yourself if you are full of complexities and negativity. Try to sleep at least 8 hours a night to avoid these negative effects.
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Relax every day
Make sure you take a little time to relax every day. Do activities such as meditation, yoga, deep breathing, aromatherapy and other relaxation techniques to avoid negative thoughts and help you believe in yourself. Find an activity that works for you and incorporate it into your daily routine.
Keep a nice environment
The things around you can affect how you perceive yourself, so it’s important to keep your home clean and pleasant. Make sure that your home (or at least your room if you are a roommate) is clean and attractive. Arrange things that make sense for you in your room to stay motivated.